Marry at the age of 25! Sounds familiar?
Yes, it is actually quite normal, whether you are living in a conservative or modern society. Many people prefer 25 years of age as the ideal age to get married and have a family.
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However, this preference somehow turns into societal pressure. And this societal pressure becomes more burdensome for women.
Societies all throughout the world have put a lot of pressure on females to get married early throughout history. Several cultures hold the view that a woman’s main life goal is to marry and have children, and if she does not do so by a particular age, she is either flawed or insufficient. Being expected to get married before turning 25 is one of the most prevalent ways society puts pressure on girls.
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And with the emergence of social media, this patriarchal idea has become mainstream. While it is unfortunate that some people continue to spread false and outdated ideas, it is quite refreshing that some of them even receive the most appropriate answer. Something similar recently happened.
A Twitter user sent out a sexist tweet
Recently, a Twitter user asserted that women should prioritize getting married before reaching 25 since they would find it hard to find a spouse from a wealthy family beyond that age. Taking to Twitter, he wrote,
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Sisters should try getting married under 25. Trust me once you get past this age, you stop getting proposals and worse you get rejected, unless you belong to a super rich family or you earn well. Other than that no Man will really be considering a girl past this age.
Sisters should try getting married under 25.
Trust me once you get past this age, you stop getting proposals and worse you get rejected, unless you belong to a super rich family or you earn well
Other than that no Man will really be considering a girl past this age.
— . (@AbuBiryanii) April 17, 2023
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Not only this, but he also bashed feminists and justified his comments shamelessly
He added,
Don’t let your studies or profession be an obstruction to marriage. Don’t let the feminists sh !t eat your brain. look around and see the reality
Don’t let your studies or profession be an obstruction to marriage.
Don’t let the feminists sh !t eat your brain. look around and see the reality
— . (@AbuBiryanii) April 17, 2023
He again tried to justify his comments by indirectly blaming Muslim society for being like that
He added,
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This is a general thing that’s particularly seen in Muslim communities. Of course there are exceptions. For men there isn’t any restriction, if he earns well he can easily get married even if he is 40 or more. It is what it is
This is a general thing that’s particularly seen in Muslim communities. Of course there are exceptions.
For men there isn’t any restriction, if he earns well he can easily get married even if he is 40 or more. It is what it is
— . (@AbuBiryanii) April 17, 2023
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The Twitter user’s outdated thinking led to a barrage of comments, schooling him for it
While many people provided personal anecdotes about how they found the love of their lives beyond 25 or even 30, others urged women to put their education, careers, and financial security first before getting married. Have a look at some of the comments.
I got married at 30 with the kindest & smartest man I’ve known in this lifetime. Neither of us were super rich, he is just a decent human being who was looking for a partner and not a maid or a Allah miya ki gaai. Pls stop telling women what they should do with their lives. https://t.co/aU4GOsHbKZ
— Beena SK (@beenakawoosa) April 21, 2023
Absolute BS.
Do not marry young. Study. Work. Earn enough to be able to support the lifestyle you want. Then think of marriage.
The world has changed & you do not know when you would need these skills.
Women just like men are getting married when they are older. 30/35/40 https://t.co/0TY6e2QVAc— Hana Mohsin Khan | هناء (@girlpilot_) April 20, 2023
Men who get rejected and who have no chances with women say this the most, most men prefer likeminded individuals for a partner, which is usually in their age bracket, these men are confident and want to marry a person not a commodity. Down here is a loser showing his insecurity https://t.co/NRZw7CuL33
— mari 🕊 (@rubiestRosie) April 19, 2023
Mashallah brother found a new way to spell “no woman with a fully developed frontal lobe will ever want me and I know it” pls make dua for him https://t.co/pmLPb7GkQ9
— Yusra Amjad (@postlovedpoet) April 19, 2023
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Sisters please wait until after 25, get your degree and your job, invest your money and also deny these idiots the ability to breed… https://t.co/m3jjQ1yngk
— Penthouse dreams (@joserealestate_) April 19, 2023
I recently heard a woman telling her son, jawani Dekhi hi nahi, 21 mein shaadi kar diya, 22 mein maa ban gaye, ab direct budhe ho gaye. Let women be. You are past the marriage age only once you die https://t.co/b3YDByHb8R
— Abdullah Deewana (@JeanDmello) April 21, 2023
Get married after you’re past this age so that you can filter out this type of guys👍🏻 https://t.co/zoyz2ETY2Q
— Maira Skywalker (@emaiera) April 19, 2023
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This is not only a misogynistic and narrow-minded perspective, but it is also completely untrue. It’s crucial to ignore any social pressures that try to determine a person’s value based on their age or relationship status because there is no age limit for falling in love and developing a good relationship.
Just like men, women should be allowed to make their own decisions about their personal lives and relationships without worrying about social pressure or being judged.
