Important Questions To Ask Before Getting Married

Today I have come up with a different but a very common and important topic to be discussed over. Now before going into the topic think what’s marriage is all about and how you would define it. Well, according to me marriage is more than two people agreeing to be in a lifetime relationship that is formed by performing some rituals and signing on some legal papers. Marriage is way beyond that. A marriage needs a strong foundation that is built with trust, dedication, honesty and immense amount of effort. It really takes a lot of effort and strength to keep every words you wrote on your vows but at the end of the day it’s all possible if you think the other person is worthy of it.

Now every relationship has it’s own ups and downs but you can always overcome any difficulties if you have the mutual understanding between you two. Well, the issues in a relationship between two person especially a married couple aren’t going to vanish completely but you can definitely make some efforts to reduce the chances of conflict in future.

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So, here are eight questions that you must ask or discuss with your would be before you make one of the crucial decisions of your life:

1. Do opposites really attract forever?

Well most of us have the nature of being attracted to a person who has a complete opposite nature, lifestyle, social life, hobbies and everything. Initially you might find it very enticing but eventually it turns very depressing. Because people change over time and that’s the irony of passionate love. So, talk about your interests and anything that bothers you or you don’t like in your partner because exoticism might fancy you for the time being but like minds will keep it going in the long run.

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2. How good are you when it comes to stress management?

Well, initially every relationship goes smoothly and the sweet romance doesn’t really bring out all the sides of a person. When you are ready to spend the entire life with someone who should know the person both at their best and worst phase. And since you cannot actually witness how that person manages himself or herself under stress you need to discuss it with them. What do they do under pressure, how do they react, do they completely isolate themselves or try to find a solution as a team because after you are married both of you should take equal responsibilities of each other and whatever issues that come into your lives.

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3. Alcohol, drug or gambling?

Some people are way too much addicted to gambling and this might arise some serious issues in your married life turning the entire relation upside down. It has the potential to break a family. And when it comes to alcohol or any other addiction the one who is uncomfortable with such habits might state it beforehand. Many people try and avoid that topic but that has the potential to create problems later. So, address the issue and talk it out to reduce the chances of problems after marriage.

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4. How comfortable are you as roommates?

This is a very vital part because you are going to share everything from a to z for the rest of your lives. Few people are very much specific with their stuffs and then there’s a group of people who are highly reluctant about taking responsibilities. So it is important to discuss about things like who’s going to pay the bills, how the household chores are going to be divided, who has a better taste when it comes to home decor or who will do the grocery shopping.

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5. What’s the future plans?

Talk about your future plans regarding your work life and personal life as well. Like if you have any planning to start a new business, will it be a risk if you start planning to have kids eventually. How much are you guys willing to take risk, what will you do if things don’t turn out to be the right way. Every tiniest future plans should be discussed thoroughly because once you are in this together you are suppose to help each other at times of need. So how much you are willing to take risk needs a mutual consent.

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6. How comfortable are you with each other’s families?

It’s not very shocking if you don’t have a very sparkling and smooth relationship with your in-laws and with those family politics going on you really need to keep calm and give your best. So always understand what good is your partner’s bond with her or his parents and work together to avoid disputes between both families.

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7. Who needs more personal space?

One of the two might need some extra solitary time and it’s very important how the other person accepts it and respects the space of him or her. So it’s better to talk it out before marriage or else it can create some issues afterwards. One might think that his or her partner is deliberately ignoring which won’t be the actual scenario and this might lead to trust issues.

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8. How much time you can give to each other?

If both of you are working then it’s obvious that you have to make a little extra effort for taking out time for both of you because if you become way too much busy in your work life after a certain point of time you cannot connect to each other. So, it’s very important to ask your partner whether they can give your relationship sufficient time or not and if not how are you expecting to find solutions to your problems after marriage. Because communication is one of the keys to solving your problems.

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These are the most important questions a person should ask to their future partners to understand them better and then make a decision.

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Meet Krati Agarwal, a 28-year-old IIT ISM Dhanbad alumna and visionary entrepreneur. With over 100k LinkedIn followers, she's the force behind a successful six-figure marketing agency, specializing in influencer marketing and PR. A passionate writer, Krati aspires to transcend her business triumphs, channelling her creativity into future endeavours – writing books and creating impactful short films.