Netizens Discuss Reasons For Increasing Divorce In India, And It’ll Break Your Heart

Marriage is one of the most pious relationships out there. For all the right reasons? Indeed for all the right reasons. It is where two souls embark on a journey of lifelong love, commitment, and trust. While it is often said that marriage is something that endures love, this endurance often fades away leading to divorce.

The trend of rising divorce cases is growing not just in the West but in India as well. The reasons why most marriages end in divorce are plethora. To say that they are saddening would be a sheer understatement.

India is one such country where the divorce rate is just 1 percent

However, what is interesting to note is that it is not because here people have the most successful relationships. It is because of the culture of arranged marriage where more focus is given to family values and societal expectations.

Even if there is no love between the couple the marriage is never called off and this makes the couple stay together in a loveless relationship. Love marriages are comparatively more better in this regard considering people get to choose life partners with whom they are actually in love. However, it has its own share of cons when it does not work out.

Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj, a journalist, took to X in order to talk about the reasons for the breakdown of Marriages in India

The pious relationship of marriage that weaves a thread of companionship breaks down for some people very easily. This is because of a lack of communication and various other things. Not long ago, a journalist named Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj took to X (formerly known as Twitter) in order to talk about such reasons. She posed the question asking what are the reasons behind the breakdown of marriages in India. She wrote as we quote,

“What is the biggest reason for breakdown of Marriages in India ?”

What is the biggest reason for breakdown of Marriages in India ?

— Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj (@DeepikaBhardwaj) July 31, 2023

After posing this question she also gave her personal answer emphasizing that it is because couples forget the vows they took during their marriages. Deepika Bhardwaj wrote as we quote,

“The biggest reason according to me for breakdown of marriages in India is the couple forgetting the vows they took during marriage. Everyone is besotted with how the wedding function should look like but not how their marriage should look like and what they need to do for it”

The biggest reason according to me for breakdown of marriages in India is the couple forgetting the vows they took during marriage.

Everyone is besotted with how the wedding function should look like but not how their marriage should look like and what they need to do for it

— Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj (@DeepikaBhardwaj) July 31, 2023

Netizens took to the comment section and gave their viewpoints which were heartbreaking

To this aforementioned question by the journalist, a plethora of people took to the comment section and shared their viewpoints. From lack of communication to unrealistic expectations, all reasons seemed more than just heartbreaking.

One user affirmed that it happens when I is preferred over We.

The thought that
– marriages can be done as many times
– there are so many “options” in the “market”
– “I, Me Mine” is above “We, Us, Ours”.

— Shrayansh Singh (@_shrayanshsingh) July 31, 2023

Another user gave a reason that it is because of the noncompromising nature.

Non compromise!!

No one wants to compromise neither the husband nor wife. Both have healthy incomes, are independent and not dependent on each other. Hence no one wants to compromise on anything. With time the love that holds them together disappear and people drift apart…

— Dr Liberal (@SanatanDoc) July 31, 2023

The third user mentioned it is because of normalizing divorce via the entertainment world.

The normalising of divorce and extra marital relationships by celebrities and movies

— Dr Meghanath (@dr_MNY) July 31, 2023

The fourth user gave their opinion with regard to both arranged and love marriages. He wrote,

• Arrange marriage: Most of the time the couple is not mentally ready for marriage. They are treated like kids and only the elders know what’s best for them…not accepting the fact that it’s him/her who has to live 60 years with that other person, not the family.

• Love…

— Soumya (@notionhead) August 1, 2023

The fifth user wrote,

In my view:
1. Societal norms/laws
2. Social / economic incompatibility
3. Sexual incompatibility – lack of intimacy, no one talks about this because children are the main objective of marriage.
4. Domestic violence from either side.

— Nikhil Mundlik (@nmundlik) August 1, 2023

Reasons are many
1 Now a days Love is missing sometimes even from love marriages after initial honeymoon period is over

2 Trust issues

3 Too much expectations

4 Financial reasons

5 Nuclear families

6 Sometimes Education also creates a false sense of Pride in one or both…

— Pradeep Rawat🇮🇳 (@ThePradeepRawat) August 1, 2023

All of these problems (reasons for breakdowns) & also their possible solutions can all be summarised using only 3 words:

1. Identity
2. Personality
3. Purpose

If anyone is interested in hearing me out, I’m happy to elaborate as much as needed.

PS: I am a student of decision…

— Prathamesh Gosavi (@PradyUvacha) July 31, 2023

When people resort to choosing personal happiness it often clashes with societal expectations. It is still to be understood that one should never back away from being content because of family and societal expectations. Rather than resorting to divorce, we should first work on sustaining marriages that are based on the foundational ground of love. Does not matter if it is an arranged marriage or a love marriage.

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