A Pregnant Woman Tells Her Husband To Save Her Over The Baby, Gets Slammed

Maternity is probably one of the most beautiful moments for someone who is expecting it to be. Yet it brings out a smile to the faces of the people. Though a mother do encounter stuff like terrible life and death situation problems when a she goes through a period of pregnancy. 

There are situations when people are made to choose between the baby and the mother. Though this situation is now very uncommon yet, crossing this off of a pregnant woman’s mind can be a bit difficult anyway.

This user on Reddit posted this about her pregnancy.

“So my daughter was born 2 years ago, I had a very good pregnancy but develop gestational diabetes at 32 weeks (due to me being overweight I was checking my sugar levels every other day). Due to this my OBGYN schedule a cesarean I didn’t have any issues with this I just wanted my baby to be born safely. So before going in to the hospital I talked with my husband that if something where to happened and he needed to choose between myself and our baby to please choose me. He got quiet but said that he agreed and that please let me mother know about what we talked.

Everything went according to plan and both of us where completely fine.

Now fast forward to now trying for number two and in a Christmas party with my girlfriends the topic was brought up about babys. There’s another friend that is also trying so the topic of conversation was on that for a good hour.

When my friend ask me that if I was ready for another 9 months of pregnancy and how I felt. I answer truthfully cause honestly I was just letting all the fears and doubts go.

I said that I do want another baby and that pregnancy doesn’t scare me such as giving birth again. I said that I straight told my husband again that I’m scared that something may happened to me during the birth and in the hopes of giving my daughter a sibling I could leave her without a mother. That the original agreement stands that he needs to choose me if that’s the case.

My friends where disgusted with my thinking and said that i was an asshole to my husband in asking him to basically kill his baby (those where the exact words), that I was a very negative person and that I needed to rethink my thoughts. I’m a person that likes to be prepared for the worse case scenario and hope for the best. I didn’t want my husband to be blindsided with who to choose and to have the answer on the spot. Nobody likes to think in what could go wrong specially in a pregnancy but I need to think every possible case that we could encounter.”

The women Reddit post went viral and netizens shared their views

While some people agreed to it, saying statements like, “I strongly support this,” one Reddit user wrote. Women are not just incubators, but people in and of themselves. Any person or institution that believes the [mother’s] life to be secondary is a misogynist.”

Obviously, there were people with the very expected and seen relies on like, her body her choice. Though it is very normal and shouldn’t be a stigma for a partner to talk about things like this with their spouse beforehand itself. A pregnant woman before delivery goes through a lot of pain to even register as to what’s right and what wrong to say, yet they get judged.

More like, situations like PCOD makes getting pregnant even more hard than it already is. It does cause risk to the mother’s life during delivery. Though natural delivery is always a good way out, at times cesarean causes a lot of health risks.  

One person wrote, “It’s so awful to think about, but your spouse should know what your wishes are during these types of situations. It’s just like end-of-life care, drastic measures to save your life, etc. where your next of kin should know what you want if you can’t. yourself.”

In the end, it is really the choice of the people going through the tedious process of giving birth. No uterus no opinion.